learnt something yesterday.. well, not exactly learn.. more as in reminded me the love languages that we all relate to.. indeed, communication is the key of life and speaking the right love languages to each other is vital.

The five love languages:

1)words of affirmation

-that is, speaking positive and encouraging words. many pple (esp.some retarded guys) are very weak in this area

-btw, do realise tt for everyone -ve word u say to someone, he or she needs another 16 +ve words to recover!

2)quality time

-not quatity time. that means, spending long hours tgt does not build any relationship if one did not devote wholeself or pay attention to each other. and this applies to ALL kinds of r/ship. be it mother-child, boy-girlfriend or even jus friends.

however, a part of quality time do requires a substantial quantity of time

3)Gift giving

-you can giving without loving but NOT love WITHOUT giving

-actually, this is the easiest love languages to learn!

-and this is to give something of great value to the one u love, which includes time.

-physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give to your loved ones(yea, i totally agree with this, it works for me).

this, again, reminds me of some hypocritical friends i use to have or still have. if u need a friend and he or she claims tt he or she is too busy for u(using very lame excuses), or they say that they will be there to support u, yet nv call u up or even send a sms to see how u r(personally, sending sms all the time is one of the most insincere way of showing concern), DO openly condemn the person, he is not ur friend. he is jus a freaking liar.

4)Acts of service

-by that, i do not mean doing the things to other of wat u like others to do to u, its doing wat u know the other person would like you to do!

-that requires thought, planning ,time , effort and energy!

-always do this with a right attitude, if not, dun bother. cos ur jus a lame jerk

5)Physical touch

-the term explain itself

-of cos this does not mean bashing up ur friend or do anything offensive to the other party!

-this will means helding or hugging the person, carassing (in decent sense of cos!), a peck on the cheek.

-in other words, phyiscal contact

-again, applied to all types of r/ship

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upon knowing this, its time to evaluate which are your primary and secondary love languages. that means, which type of love expression is more appropriate to urself.

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ok.. for myself, my primary love language is physical touch.

dun look at me like that! :\

someone was shock, in fact almost laugh at me when i said tt, tt's y i didnt really want to tell pple im not close too.. they only piss me off with their bloody immaturity

hey, God created me this way alright.. at least i dare to admit wat type of person i am:)

unlike u, mockers.

and my secondary love language is words of affirmation. surprisingly, this is a primary love language for most males. do i have as much ego? lol.. may be. anyway, now that u noe this, STOP SAYING STUPID SENSELESS THINGS INFRONT OF ME. frankly, i despise pple like tt. i mean, when u r laughing at, demeaning or criticising another person( tt includes stupid rude jokes), u r insulting urself more than u insulting anyone esle. because ur jus showing that u have no respect for urself. that's y u cant respect others. and u have PROBLEM intellectually and emotionally to relate to pple. i didnt want to say this but i felt i have to. cos some pple u really need to speak to them THIS plainly. i hope u r reading this, whoever.

-so if u have nothing better to say. SHUT UP. dun talk to me. i rather hang ard wif encouraging pple.

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btw, i hate pple who talks and laugh loudly all the time, esp guys. can really kill me k! i felt like i have been reduced to a moron when such pple r ard. so ppllleeeaasse. dun yell to me. talk to me instead. speak properly and nicely and put some thoughts in wat u r gg to say.

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and again, i have to say i dun really like smses. i mean, pls, if possible, call me instead of smsing. no offences, but in some cases, i really think its insincere. and NEVER EVER PASS MSG TO ME THROUGH THIRD PARTY, its very very very VERY IRRITATING esp. when u do that all the time. n its plain stupid. and i do mean STUPID.i know of some pple like tt(actually, only one or two).. n tt's y u will see that i dun talk to them bcos i think they are retarded.

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eeww.. i sounded like a skeptical, dont i? lol.. who cares.

hey, but i do wanna thk God for many great friends i have..

to my great friends: you may not have done right stuff all the time, but i noe u have tried ur best. sorry if i doubted some of u esp. when we are distance and spartial apart. it only prove that ur all such great and faithful friends. when i needed u, u guys are there. thks you. :) hope to catch up with some of u soon! :D

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to whoever: stop talking mindless and mundane things to me and think tt this is quality communication. its not always abot UR dreams, UR vision,UR goals and UR life. this is a real world. I exist too. spare a thought for me. it jus doesnt work this way alright.